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Interpersonal Skills - What are they and how do you develop them?

Imagine this.

You’re running late to work.

You rush into the building, already stressed because you have a Teams call starting in 10 minutes that you haven’t fully prepared for. Your phone is ringing. You’re juggling your bag andl aptop as you squeeze into a crowded elevator.

Finally the doors open. You step out, moving quickly toward your desk.

Then suddenly -

“Hey Melissa! How are you?”

You stop.

It’s Jane. A colleague you know well. She’s friendly, thoughtful… but she also has a habit of telling very long stories before getting to the point.

Normally you have the patience for it.

But today you’re under pressure.

You interrupt quickly:
“Sorry Jane, I just can’t talk to you right now.”

And you walk on fast.

A few steps later you glance back. Jane looks surprised. Maybe even a little hurt.

In that moment your interpersonal skills - normally fine - have slipped. The interaction felt abrupt and uncomfortable for both of you.  And you know it.

Most of us recognise moments like these.

And they highlight an important question:

What are interpersonal skills, what does it mean to have them, and why do they matter so much at work?

Let's explore.

What Are Interpersonal Skills?

Interpersonal skills are the abilities we use to communicate and interact with other people.

They shape how we:

• share ideas
• listen to others
• build relationships
• work in teams
• handle disagreements
• build trust

The word interpersonal simply means “between people.”

So when thinking of an interpersonal skills definition,  put simply - we are talking about the skills we use whenever we interact with someone else.

You use them every day at work - in meetings, emails, conversations, presentations, and even quick hallway chats, such as the one with Jane.

Strong interpersonal skills help people communicate clearly, collaborate effectively, and maintain positive interpersonal professional relationships.  They also build trust – as people feel safe around you as you demonstrate you are someone they can easily communicate with.
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Intepersonal Skills Examples

Interpersonal skills show up in almost all everyday workplace behaviours.

Some common examples of interpersonal skills include:

• Active listening
• Clear communication
• Empathy
• Teamwork
• Conflict resolution
• Giving and receiving feedback
• Negotiation
• Emotional intelligence
• Relationship building
• Collaboration

These are sometimes called interpersonal communication skills because they influence how we exchange information and understand each other.

When people have strong interpersonal skills, they tend to build stronger interpersonal relationships at work. Colleagues trust them, communication feels easier, and teams tend to work more smoothly. It’s one of the critical traits organisations look for – in emerging leaders.  And can be a strong signal, that you are ready for promotion.

Are Interpersonal Skills the same as Soft Skills?

Not exactly - although they are closely related.

Think of Soft skills as the parent group of human capabilities that influence how we work with others and manage ourselves.

Examples of soft skills include:

• communication
• adaptability
• problem solving
• time management
• creativity
• leadership

Interpersonal skills are one type of soft skill.

They focus specifically on how we communicate and relate to other people.

So in the 'family' of soft-skills, you could think of them each playing a different role.  For example:  

Interpersonal skills

-        improving communication and building relationships with others

Problem solving

-        ability to analyse and resolve issues

Adaptability

-        ability to easily adjust  to  change

Time management

-        comfort managing your workload and priorities.

In most workplaces today, people need a mix of both technical expertise and strong interpersonal capabilities.

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Are Interpersonal Skills Inherited - or Learned?

Some people seem naturally good at communicating with others.

This can be influenced by the culture they were brought up in, their personality, or early life and work experiences.

But the good news is that interpersonal skills are absolutely learnable.

Most people develop them through:

• seeking out diverse workplace experiences
• actively asking for  live feedback from colleagues and managers
• observing effective communicators in action and noting what they do differently
• reflecting on  interactions that went well (or didn’t), and learning by example.

For example, many people gradually improve their interpersonal communication skills by learning how to:

• run meetings more effectively – seeking input and active feedback from teams.
• giving constructive feedback – learning how to deliver difficult feedback comfortably
• managing difficult conversations – not avoiding conflict, but facing it square on
• asking better questions – not jumping to conclusions, or asking closed questions.

Like any skill, they always improve with practice.
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Why Interpersonal Skills matter more in the Age of AI

Technology is changing the workplace fast.

AI tools can now analyse data, automate tasks, and generate information faster than ever before.  It’s arguably taking away a lot of the ‘easy’ and ‘non-communicative’ tasks that often bring us easy relief in our day.

But there are still many things machines cannot easily replace.

For example:

• building trust
• understanding emotions
• managing conflict
• motivating teams
• influencing decisions

These are all areas where human interpersonal skills remain essential. These will become, very soon, the most highly valued skills in the workplace.   As this will be what we will be relied on, to deliver as automation takes a way a lot of the low inter-personalwork.

People who can explain ideas clearly, collaborate effectively, deal with conflict, and build strong working relationships are increasingly the ones who willprogress into leadership roles.
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Why Communication is Getting Harder at Work

Importantly, many people say communication at work feels more difficult today than it did in the past. And this just puts pressure on our abilitites.

There may be a few reasons for this.
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1. Hybrid and remote work

Many conversations now happen through video calls or messaging tools rather than face-to-face.  This makes it difficult to read emotion, casually interject, use humour, and build intimacy.
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2. Faster & more adaptive work pace

Teams are under pressure to make decisions more quickly, and switch modes or even ways of working – continuously.  This puts pressure on people when they alsohave to consider their communication style with others – natural frustration with pace and change, can impact how we communicate.  
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3. Diverse teams

Workplaces now bring together people from different cultures, backgrounds, and communication styles.  We are living in a working environment withup to 5 generations now interacting – all with different norms, andexpectations of how they should be communicated with.  This brings more complexity and the requirement to adapt how you communicate in real-time, based on the audiences preferences.
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4. Information overload

Emails, Slack messages, meetings, AI-bots, productivity tools, notifications and constant training.  Everything seems to be competing for our attention, and for many of us this is creating cognitive overload.   And when this happens, it’s easy to react fast as well – sometimes resulting in rushed or ill thought out communication.  

All of this means that strong interpersonal communication skills are becoming increasingly important for navigating modern workplaces.
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Three Practical Tips to Improve your Interpersonal Skills

The good news is that small changes in behaviour, can make a big difference.

Here are three practical ways to strengthen your interpersonal skills at work.
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1. Practice Active Listening

Many people focus on what they are going to say next rather than fully listening.

Active listening means:

• giving someone your full  attention
• not assuming what they are saying or asking
• always start by asking clarifying, open, questions eg “Could you elaborate more on this one point     so I fully understand..”
• summarising what you heard eg “Let me play back to you what I heard to make sure we’re on the     same page..”

People feel respected and understood when they are truly listened to.
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2. Communicate More Clearly

Strong communicators make their ideas simple.

You can improve your clarity of communication by:

• structuring your  message before speaking – especially when communicating something of importance.
• keeping explanations concise – say less, so as to avoid ambiguity.  Focus on the big words first, and weave  in the connectors, keeping them to a minimum.
• adapting your communication to your audience.  Think about who you are communicating with, their preferences, and their possible bias before you start.

Clarity reduces misunderstandings and helps teams move faster.
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3. Build Awareness of How Others Experience You

Interpersonal skills often improve when we become more aware of how our behaviour affects others.

You can build this awareness by:

• asking trusted  colleagues for feedback – informally or via feedback apps.
• Journal and reflect on difficult conversations – keep a diary so you can look for patterns in what was said, and how you are improving your response, so you are prepared for when it happens again.
• noticing how people respond to your communication style – look for change in body language, or emotional responses.  If need be,  clarify.  “eg Did what I say land  clearly for you? “

Small adjustments can significantly improve professional relationships.
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Final Thoughts

Interpersonal skills are the foundation of effective working relationships.

They shape how we communicate, collaborate, and solve problems with other people.

And they are rapidly becoming the "Power-Skills" of the decade.

While some people may seem naturally good at developing interpersonal skills, the reality is that they can be developed over time through practice and awareness. And so area competency, we can all build.

And in a world where technology continues to change how we work, the ability to connect with otherpeople - clearly, respectfully, and effectively - remains one of the mostvaluable professional skills anyone can build.

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